Friends
How are friends made?
Why do I say stupid things to people I love?
Around grade 10 I had all the friends in the world. Always invited me to the hottest parties. However, if someone started a rumour, or decided they didn't like someone, EVERYONE didn't like that person and so they were pretty much exiled. I saw one of my close friends get exiled and I was torn. Then it seemed as though I myself got the boot from the group. I'm pretty sure it was because I turned down a beer at a bar where all my "friends" were drinking. We were all 17 to my knowledge. Anyway, I was out, period. No matter who i tried to call no one would pick up or really tell me anything that was going on. I felt like I had no friends.
That instance alone has taught me that many friends does not mean lots of happiness. This is why I keep only a handful of good friends. But it seems that I go and say something stupid to get them pissed at me and so dwindles my numbers. I haven't quite figured out why I say the things I say. I mean to hurt no one at all, but I know that something I say are very hurtful. For example, recently I was talking to someone who has this long standing "joke" hanging over their head and it is very hurtful. I mentioned something which inferred the joke and they got upset, and they had every right to. To that person, I'm sorry, I can't say i'll never do it again but i'll try to think before I speak.
Also, there's someone else who is either avoiding my calls or something and it's pissing me off cause they have movies that i leant them a while back. I'm the kind of person who if they say they'll call, I'll call. So when someone says they'll call me, i make a plan to be there to talk. I never want to turn into someone who screens their calls pretending I'm too busy/good to talk to whoever is calling. So it naturally pisses me off when someone doesn't call back after I leave a message, or they say they're going to call but forget and make plans to go see a movie with one of their friends. So i guess I'm not as good a friend as the other, that's the only feeling I take from it because I've been "forgotten" about a litte too often for coincidence lately.
Thats' all
Why do I say stupid things to people I love?
Around grade 10 I had all the friends in the world. Always invited me to the hottest parties. However, if someone started a rumour, or decided they didn't like someone, EVERYONE didn't like that person and so they were pretty much exiled. I saw one of my close friends get exiled and I was torn. Then it seemed as though I myself got the boot from the group. I'm pretty sure it was because I turned down a beer at a bar where all my "friends" were drinking. We were all 17 to my knowledge. Anyway, I was out, period. No matter who i tried to call no one would pick up or really tell me anything that was going on. I felt like I had no friends.
That instance alone has taught me that many friends does not mean lots of happiness. This is why I keep only a handful of good friends. But it seems that I go and say something stupid to get them pissed at me and so dwindles my numbers. I haven't quite figured out why I say the things I say. I mean to hurt no one at all, but I know that something I say are very hurtful. For example, recently I was talking to someone who has this long standing "joke" hanging over their head and it is very hurtful. I mentioned something which inferred the joke and they got upset, and they had every right to. To that person, I'm sorry, I can't say i'll never do it again but i'll try to think before I speak.
Also, there's someone else who is either avoiding my calls or something and it's pissing me off cause they have movies that i leant them a while back. I'm the kind of person who if they say they'll call, I'll call. So when someone says they'll call me, i make a plan to be there to talk. I never want to turn into someone who screens their calls pretending I'm too busy/good to talk to whoever is calling. So it naturally pisses me off when someone doesn't call back after I leave a message, or they say they're going to call but forget and make plans to go see a movie with one of their friends. So i guess I'm not as good a friend as the other, that's the only feeling I take from it because I've been "forgotten" about a litte too often for coincidence lately.
Thats' all
posted by BMF at
6:43 PM
2 Comments:
Buckshot,
You know I appreciate your insights and wisdom. Yes Buck, I DO believe you have wisdom. I also like it that when we disagree, we forget it. That's what real friends do. If others keep stuff like that, drop them. They obviously don't know that friendships aren't perfect. People aren't either.
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Dalton, at 9:16 AM
buck, if it was you talking about how you
liked the replacements, im really sorry. i didnt
mean to offend you. also, from reading your blog,
i hope i am not that person you lent a movie to
because chances are...i could be. heck, im that
kind of forgetful lameoid. anyways, just wanted
to belong with you and dalton here on your blog
and exist with you and him in a moment of joy. ah.
love ya man.
matty
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Anonymous, at 12:56 PM
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