It's a long road to the cup
I will be submitting a team roster for the 2007 Winter Coed Soccer intramural season at the University of Ottawa. Because of our poor performance last season, I feel we need to up the ante and get to the registration line even EARLIER than last year. While thinking about how we are going to win the championship next march, it got me thinking about a topic often talked about but not always taken to heart.
So how will we win the cup come March 2007? It's going to take a lot of goals I suspect. Setting them and scoring them. We have all been told at somepoint, probably more than once, to set life goals. So we write down 10 things we WANT to do before we die. Or we write down what we want out of life. Some will write down what they want right at that moment.
So why do this? Does it make us look at our desires and realize there are so many that it's ridiculous to try to accomplish them all? Maybe it shows how needy we are to have material things around us to build a comfort zone. I can't say for every situation, BUT I can speak from a few experiences on a couple of the ways we view goals, or at least the way I do.
Life goals. What's a life goal? To most it is something they wish to accomplish before they die. I was watching the Ellen talkshow one day, my remote broke and was stuck, and she encouraged everyone to write down 100 things they want to DO before they die. If you want my opinion, this list should be called, Things I will do when I get bored with life list. Most of the stuff she had, and the people she had send her theirs, were things like climb a mountain, meet a celebrity, learn spanish, drink a cup of coffee from a coffee shop in every US capitol, etc. There was however a few items which were to the tune of volunteering for Red Cross in a war torn country, work at a soup kitchen, and care for children in Africa.
I've found that making these lists gives perspective and sets a mind frame. It's nice to be able to look at a list realize you want to do a lot of "living" before you die, but how do you do it? Mindset I think dictates the do'ers, from the list'ers. I myself never saw the use of making big LIFE LISTS, but recently it has become an idea which I might find useful. Instead, I have been taking whatever situation I'm in on a daily basis and making a goal for it. I've found if you have a goal in mind for a lot of situations and can achieve that goal, your mindset for success starts to "reframe". Now if you take a week long goal, whatever that may be, you'll start to see how little goals every day can lead up to getting the big goal at the end.
Just as a possible example, you want to add people to your network of daily people you chat with by the water cooler. So day one, you walk by someone who looks interesting and notice something about them, anything, no talking, just smile or give the NOA, nod of acknowledgement. Next day, you see them and you say hello, and ask how their day is. Next day, ask them about something you noticed monday and start a conversation. So by the end of the week you feel comfortable talking and interacting with someone you have never talked to until a couple of days ago.
I've found this builds confidence, it shows how easy it is to notice interesting things about random people, and how to talk to them about anything.
So why this topic? Girls of course! By setting small goals to build confidence, like saying hi to 10 women every day for a week. Then asking how their day is the next week, etc. This kind of learning by repitition is amazing at how fast it works. But of course there are always times where you say, I can't find anything to talk about. I watched a guy in a seminar spew off at least 20 things which are a snap learn which a lot of people find interesting. The one I picked up on is handwriting analysis. I have always been interested in why I have such crappy handwriting, now I'm actually learning! This type of thing is called a "crutch". If NOTHING else, lean on one something which will work most of the time.
So you walk by a work acquaintance, see him/her writing something. The next day, you say Hi and start with, I noticed your handwriting yesterday, have you ever had it analyzed? I'm not saying this type of thing will spark interest everytime, but I'd venture a guess that it might peak their interest just enough to start some kind of communication. Another type of "crutch" is reflexology. Learning about pressure points and flexibility to relieve stress. Stress is something a lot of people have, so why not use it to your advantage to get the ball rolling?
Well, Jerry's final thoughts go something like this, try going through a day with goals for whatever situation you find yourself in. Or try to make a goal which seems ALMOST impossible for that day and see what you can come up with. Hopefully it will get you thinking in terms of your personal success. Success is all a mind frame, and having a goal oriented mindset will frame your mind for success.
Cheers,
J
So how will we win the cup come March 2007? It's going to take a lot of goals I suspect. Setting them and scoring them. We have all been told at somepoint, probably more than once, to set life goals. So we write down 10 things we WANT to do before we die. Or we write down what we want out of life. Some will write down what they want right at that moment.
So why do this? Does it make us look at our desires and realize there are so many that it's ridiculous to try to accomplish them all? Maybe it shows how needy we are to have material things around us to build a comfort zone. I can't say for every situation, BUT I can speak from a few experiences on a couple of the ways we view goals, or at least the way I do.
Life goals. What's a life goal? To most it is something they wish to accomplish before they die. I was watching the Ellen talkshow one day, my remote broke and was stuck, and she encouraged everyone to write down 100 things they want to DO before they die. If you want my opinion, this list should be called, Things I will do when I get bored with life list. Most of the stuff she had, and the people she had send her theirs, were things like climb a mountain, meet a celebrity, learn spanish, drink a cup of coffee from a coffee shop in every US capitol, etc. There was however a few items which were to the tune of volunteering for Red Cross in a war torn country, work at a soup kitchen, and care for children in Africa.
I've found that making these lists gives perspective and sets a mind frame. It's nice to be able to look at a list realize you want to do a lot of "living" before you die, but how do you do it? Mindset I think dictates the do'ers, from the list'ers. I myself never saw the use of making big LIFE LISTS, but recently it has become an idea which I might find useful. Instead, I have been taking whatever situation I'm in on a daily basis and making a goal for it. I've found if you have a goal in mind for a lot of situations and can achieve that goal, your mindset for success starts to "reframe". Now if you take a week long goal, whatever that may be, you'll start to see how little goals every day can lead up to getting the big goal at the end.
Just as a possible example, you want to add people to your network of daily people you chat with by the water cooler. So day one, you walk by someone who looks interesting and notice something about them, anything, no talking, just smile or give the NOA, nod of acknowledgement. Next day, you see them and you say hello, and ask how their day is. Next day, ask them about something you noticed monday and start a conversation. So by the end of the week you feel comfortable talking and interacting with someone you have never talked to until a couple of days ago.
I've found this builds confidence, it shows how easy it is to notice interesting things about random people, and how to talk to them about anything.
So why this topic? Girls of course! By setting small goals to build confidence, like saying hi to 10 women every day for a week. Then asking how their day is the next week, etc. This kind of learning by repitition is amazing at how fast it works. But of course there are always times where you say, I can't find anything to talk about. I watched a guy in a seminar spew off at least 20 things which are a snap learn which a lot of people find interesting. The one I picked up on is handwriting analysis. I have always been interested in why I have such crappy handwriting, now I'm actually learning! This type of thing is called a "crutch". If NOTHING else, lean on one something which will work most of the time.
So you walk by a work acquaintance, see him/her writing something. The next day, you say Hi and start with, I noticed your handwriting yesterday, have you ever had it analyzed? I'm not saying this type of thing will spark interest everytime, but I'd venture a guess that it might peak their interest just enough to start some kind of communication. Another type of "crutch" is reflexology. Learning about pressure points and flexibility to relieve stress. Stress is something a lot of people have, so why not use it to your advantage to get the ball rolling?
Well, Jerry's final thoughts go something like this, try going through a day with goals for whatever situation you find yourself in. Or try to make a goal which seems ALMOST impossible for that day and see what you can come up with. Hopefully it will get you thinking in terms of your personal success. Success is all a mind frame, and having a goal oriented mindset will frame your mind for success.
Cheers,
J
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